Each day between 1PM and 3PM I am in my son's bedroom, putting him to sleep and waiting there for him to have his nap. I have got him used from day one to sleep with me and now I am paying a big price for this bad habit. I thought him wrong, I know.
Despite the fact he is three years old, he does not want to sleep without me. He refuses to go to sleep alone. It does not matter that I am in present in the house or in his room, he wants me in the bed, next to him. If he moves, stretches his hand and he does not feel me being there, then he wakes up and cries for me. If his hand touches me, or he hears my breath or my voice, than he goes back to sleep. I tried countless times to change his habit, but I failed.
My friends and parents suggested me different approaches for this. Some said to let him play without putting him to sleep, hoping that he would eventually crash all by himself and he would not ask for me.
Others told me to put him in his room, read him a story and then let him sleep alone even if starts to cry. Obviously the latter was not my favourite approach! I am always against letting a child cry without trying to solve the issue with him.
Some or most of parents would disagree with my last statement, saying that is wrong. Well, each one of us has his own ways of parenting. I am open to certain things when it comes to my child's education and needs, but it does not mean I will apply or test on my kid everything I see or hear. I have a mind of my own and since I am responsible for him, I will do whatever I consider to be the best thing for him in that specific situation. There is no one size fits all solution. There is no magic or any other method that gives positive results with all kids. Each child is unique, therefore the solution has to be tailored to him, to his environment and his abilities.
It's the same thing when you go to the doctor and you ask for a prescription for your headache. One doctor may prescribe a certain drug, while another may recommend a migraine treatment, or simply tell you to take Tylenol. This solution was the one I used when I had problem with my private mortgage lender. And it did not even work… So what’s the best thing to do so?